The Top Ten Ways to Tell the Truth,
the Whole Truth and Nothing but the Truth
…No Matter What!

To always tell the truth is a wonderful thing to strive for. However, the truth is not useful if it is not constructive. Our perception of truth is unique to each of us and it evolves and changes shape as we grow. It is very important to make sure that it is safe for you to tell the truth

Telling the whole truth is a skill that can be developed and it does take time. Give yourself permission to build this muscle at your own speed. Taking small and consistent truth-telling steps will have a dramatic impact on the quality of your life. The greatest place to start with telling the whole truth is with yourself.

Here are some tips to support you in raising your truth-telling IQ.

  1. Learn how to Respond vs. React. We respond with love; we react with fear. We respond in the present and we react with constraints to the past or fear of the future. All breakthroughs happen in the present.
  2. Pay attention to signs from your mind, body, and heart when you don’t tell the truth. Place extra emphasis on your heart because that’s where the truth lives.
  3. Tell the truth quickly the same way you pull off a Band-Aid or get into cold water.
  4. Take a look back at a lesson you learned or challenges you have now because you didn’t tell the truth. This will increase your desire to tell the truth now.
  5. Get a partner to practice telling the whole truth with. Get more support than you think you need.
  6. Get to the core of the truth. If you have a lot of "shoulds" in your vocabulary then chances are good you are not speaking or connecting with your truth.
  7. Don’t tell the truth when you are very angry because you might say things that you will regret. After you cool down, it may not be the truth any longer.
  8. Deliver the truth with a loving and compassionate tone. It is okay to use a compassionate edge.
  9. Be gentle with yourself and give yourself time to develop this skill. Start with the easy stuff first.
  10. Be open to seeing where you may have blind spots to your truth.